Lately, I’ve been thinking about what real friendship actually looks like. It’s easy to embrace the good times—laughing, supporting each other, showing up. But what about when a friend challenges you, pushes you, or forces you to confront things you’d rather avoid? That part of friendship doesn’t get talked about enough, but it’s where the real growth happens.
My friend James has been that person for me. He’s taught me the power of speaking my voice and holding my boundaries, even when it feels uncomfortable. Truth be told, there were times I wanted to cut him off—not because he was wrong, but because I didn’t realize that iron sharpens iron. And let’s be real, being sharpened can hurt.
James has a way of calling me out when I’m shrinking back or not standing up for myself. At first, it felt like he was just picking at my flaws, and I took it personally. I thought, “Why can’t you just support me without questioning everything?” But over time, I realized he wasn’t trying to tear me down—he was trying to build me up, to help me see the strength I was leaving on the table.
Real friendship isn’t just about hype and agreeing with everything you do. It’s about having someone who sees you fully and still pushes you to be better. James taught me that boundaries aren’t just walls—they’re a way to protect what matters most. He’s helped me realize that using my voice and standing firm in my boundaries isn’t just okay—it’s necessary.
There’s a level of discomfort that comes with being sharpened. It can feel like tension, irritation, or even offense. But looking back, I see how much I’ve grown because of those tough, awkward, uncomfortable conversations. I’ve learned that when someone truly cares about you, they don’t just let you slide. They hold you accountable to the best version of yourself.
So, to James—thank you for being the friend who challenges me, who doesn’t just agree to keep the peace, and who has taught me that my voice matters. I see now that true friendship requires sharpening, and that sharpening isn’t always smooth or easy.
Side Note: James is also the plug for all things travel—literally the go-to for booking trips. If you need a getaway or want to explore the world, hit him up (@islandboy24_). You won’t regret it!